Climbing The Cane

     I'm really glad that I've, finally, started writing about this topic, which is always relevant and trending for all people and societies. On the other hand, this topic is not general, but it's only dedicated to those platonic lovers, whose population on Earth is relatively neglected compared to normal lovers. Platonic lovers are those who are, in some way, blind, dealing with their relationships with those whom they love. They never search for their type of people nor stalk persons they would like, to check if they are compatible with their personalities or not. Outer beauty isn't even one of their scales to evaluate their life partner. They can easily see through people's bodies as well, as they see the soul of a person clearly, like, the real personality of that certain person. In other words, their major scale, to evaluate their beloved partner, is the inner beauty. So now, if you're not one of those lovers, please stop reading as you're gonna find it cheesy, silly and useless.

     Ohh! You're still here! .. So welcome Platonician! .. It really feels so good to feel that we are unique, you know? ..

We enjoy our lives 70% more than normal people, as they're so superficial and shallow dealing with their lives and routines. So they rarely focus on details and small things, so they usually crash into lots of troubles, problems and misunderstandings in their daily life. But we, Platonicians, love details. We never do something unless we are sure that the result is going to be perfect. And that is definitely the main reason why we are so picky, in order to, always, choose the best things ever for ourselves. We, certainly, do appreciate beautiful and clear souls disregarding the physical shapes of the bodies containing those souls. Because we, simply, believe that a human being is never responsible nor controller of his own shape and look, but, definitely, he's the only controlling person of his soul, personality and behavior.

     When a Platonician starts to admire someone, he/she will be very patient to get to know them much better and better, to make sure that he/she has already known most of their personality's sides even before involving in a serious official relationship. And Platonicians, also, really get attracted much quicker than usual if they figure out that their crush's personality is compatible and matching with their own personality. So here comes the first imagery illustration, as I depict the first feeling of love as the bottom tip of a candy cane, as everyone, naturally, would like to taste it so bad, so when their tongue just starts to touch that tip at the bottom of the cane and the sugar crumbs dissolve in their mouth in that sweet way, they instantly get that feeling of joy and happiness for several moments after that first lick. That's exactly why everybody enjoys the very first days of their relationship the most, and it takes a big part in their favorite memories of their whole lifetime. The two sides get to know each other more and more, letting each other into the other's life details, habits and beliefs. Moreover, they might even, probably, think that they are getting more matching as time passes, like saying the same words at the same time, or doing same actions in similar situations, but in fact, they might be doing a normal thing that anybody would do if they were put in the same situation. So there's no doubt that this stage, licking the sugary edge of the bottom of the candy cane, is the sweetest for any couple along their relationship lifetime.

     Next, we move to the "Licking Technique" stage, where each partner in each couple reveals his/her ways of showing love and care to the other partner. I gave it this name as it is very similar to the stage of licking the main part, stem, of the candy cane, which everybody has his/her own favorite, unique way to go through it. Some people like just to lick it normally in a vertical motion until all the red color fade away. Some other people would like to trace the revolving red line with their tongue in an artistic joyful way. Also others may like to put the whole cane inside their mouth and enjoy crushing its sugar into small pieces. Similarly, Platonic lovers have their own unique techniques of showing love and care. But in love, it varies much more, as there are millions of ways to show love to your partner or give them enough care. Someone may prefer to show his feelings through letters, e-mails and messages. Another person would rather to talk to their beloved face to face, plus assuring on the eye contact and stressing on certain words to make them stick to their partner's brain. The sweetest of all of them, and the most favorite for me, yet the riskiest and most exhausting, is the crazy, overly-insane, showing of love and passion. This way would require its lover to do whatever comes to their mind just to make their partner's day and show them how much their existence in their lives is more important than any other thing. Usually creatives, artists and those abnormal people acquire this way of loving, as they always think outside the box, and challenge themselves that their actions could never be expected by anyone. So the result always come in its best, and most effective on the other side.

     Climbing the cane, passing through all stages of love and joy in relationships, it finally comes to the longest, and most stable stage, which is the "Permanent Sugar Rush". When you get used to the sweet sugary taste of the candy cane, and you still like it, and you are not gonna stop licking it whatever might appear in front of you of other sweets or food, and you even hope that this cane would last in your mouth forever and never get finished. I think it is easy now for you to relate it to the parallel stable stage in love, isn't it? Platonicians reach some point from which they start getting used to love their partner more and more everyday, endlessly. And whoever might appear in front of them, they just can't see them clearly, because they're always interested in, and looking at their beloved with pure focus, and anyone else can only take part in the blurry unclear background. In this stage, a Platonician almost has his/her life career drawn completely with their beloved partner, planning for every and each event that they would go through together one day. They usually live the most successful and happiest lives among all humans' possible kinds of lives.

Mistrust

     From the most accurate specifics that we never think of, which is often the main reason for problems and quarrels we meet in our daily life, is Mistrust.

     This disease is really dangerous and may reach very complicated levels if it managed to control an entire human's heart. It raises doubts towards anybody and anything around. He becomes a trifling person and can difficultly trust anyone, however they're close to him or not.

     From the most important reasons for generating this disease in people's hearts is that the evil side in human's psyche always beats the good side. And this is an expected result of inattention with heart and psyche and not refreshing them, which people should preserve it regularly as long as they're alive. From a time to another, a human should look at himself and at his deeds, and revise his thoughts and decisions in his latest couple of days. To see what wrongs did he do so he can learn from them and never do again, and also to know his good deeds to persist on them, and improve them as well. Thinking about whom did he insult or offend intentionally or even unintentionally. Whom did he aggrieve by a quick decision. Whom did he hurt with a reckless word while being in a bad mood. Whom doesn't he care about enough and those whom he is boycotting for no reasons or even for a known reason. Occasionally, you must look at yourself and evaluate it. And see whether you're improving yourself or walking in a wrong path and you're just not aware of it. Driving on 60 Km/Hr and wearing your seat-belt, or you're disregarding the radar and you have no side-mirrors in your car. From a period to another, you have to try to improve your psyche, manners, character and treatment with others around you. Self-discipline is from the most important steps to purify the heart and to, relatively, eliminate the evil side in it.

     None of us would like to deal with that incredulous person who's always tense and cares about every little detail that would happen due the two upcoming days, and always afraid and not reassured with everything that goes around and just thinking about everything in details at the same time! These people are so pathetic. They always see everybody wicked and always expecting hatred from them, and thinking that all people are just living for their own benefits only, and also, most probably, may harm or deceive me. All mankind are bad. I always have to assume a definite and cautious first impression for all people before seeing or treating them, or even hearing about them. That impression includes that all the people has a bad hostile intent. For sure, people who follow this way in treating people are very tired and suffers a lot in their lives. The simplest disadvantage of this way of life is the permanent nervous confusion. And the huge number of thoughts in their minds that never let them sleep. And as soon as these thoughts come to an end, other thoughts start immediately. Over-thinking and worry leading to mistrusting people's intentions. Human's mind wasn't once created for this thoughts and nerves war. All their big problems and long arguments are just started with a simple misunderstanding. And the question is: Why?? Why do we do all of this?? Why do people exhaust themselves that bad??

     Those people always feel arrogant and super-proud of themselves. And that repeating voice in their ears saying "You're the best in this world!", and all these people will never benefit you anyways. And "You can get and understand everyone. Nobody can deceive you, and you can deceive anyone."

     Self-denial is the best therapy for this case. From time to time, you have to persuade yourself that you're not a better creature than other creatures in anything. And if you are in a great position, rich and own a lot of money, happy and relieved in your life, and some other people cannot find a piece of bread to eat, it's all just because of Allah's generosity and blessing for you. There's nothing that you've created nor planned for yourself. Even you, the whole of you, just came to this universe as a result of Allah's desire and munificence for your parents. 

Limited Love

     Love is being misunderstood by many societies as a result of ignorance and illiteracy. The word "Love" has several definitions, but people only knew a few of them, and then they never thought of a definition from those except for the romantic passionate love. Only that type of love between a husband and his wife in a traditional marriage life. People have limited the huge meaning of love into a very constrained simple meaning, so as all of those other sweet meanings have been fading since they are not being understood nor used anymore between people and individuals.

     We, creatures on Earth, are managing to keep alive here on this planet only because of the presence of love in the air we're all breathing. Allah made love control this world with equal quantities of care, emotions and passions. Although hatred exists, people can never bear living with each other without those whom we love and miss from time to another. Also for the animals, they can never manage to stay alive without feeling loved from their owners and people taking their responsibilty.